What You Offer an Older Woman First, let’s talk about what you offer an older woman: Of course, the most important thing that you offer an older woman is you.
Who you are, what your passions are and all the things that go into making you yourself.
But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior.
You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.
I guess I'm kind of an expert in this arena because I've been involved with a younger man for the past two and a half years. He's 23 years younger, which is probably a bigger gap than most couples.
The crazy thing is how perfectly suited we are to each other and how well we match on every level, even though, on the surface, it would seem like we'd have very little in common.
If you’re like me, sometimes you just end up going down Wikipedia holes that last for hours.
What She Offers You What does an older woman offer you?
Well, each one offers something different and special.
One thing that works in our favor is that I wanted a younger man (although I was thinking more like 48) and he prefers older women (he pursued me and knew how old I was, because he first set eyes on me at my 60th birthday party at the tennis club where he worked as a trainer).
It turns out that one-sixth of women in their 50s prefer men in their 40s. I knew I wanted a younger man, but only as a playmate.