If someone you’re dating confides in you about dealing with a mental illness, listen to what they have to say without assuming that you know what they are dealing with and how this has altered their life.You can be sure that almost any woman you've met in your life has had her share of hurt from relationships before meeting you, unresolved issues from the past and are possibly even still reeling from the negative effects of past problems.( to put it mildly) A light bulb lights up in my head and I swear, It's like she turns into a magnet, which I become unable to resist. I don’t see any problem here other than you will get heartache over and over. I think you want to view yourself as the hero who makes everything right. You can only accept what it was, accept that they did their best and now it's up to you to do better and make healthier choices, because it is a choice. diminishing all that tough and masculine image.^^^ I agree 100%^^^It is normal, and its a good thing that you are now becoming aware of it. I had to change my whole outlook from solely looking at "what can I do for her" to "what do we bring to each other." While I initially felt this approach to be a step toward self-centeredness, I have come to realize that there is a necessary dose of self-centeredness that we all need. Otherwise, we (read-or I did) bottle up our needs, goals, and desires for the sake of the other, and eventually enter an emotional 'shut-down' mode.It's a classic problem with people who didn't develop healthy boundries as a child. From there its over, its just a matter of time till you realize it. But its "do-able."Though "My I" and "joro" answered the OP rather nicely, I still wanna give props to a post Margo recently made because it nails it, too.I'm okay with it, and don't have any complains there).
This may seem a bit odd in your mind as many people have strange habits but if your woman does in fact indulge in compulsive smoking, eating, drinking or even obsessive cleanliness chances are she's got some sort of unchecked emotion that she's compensating for through such behavior.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... I know of a couple who are exactly as you describe.
Here are some things to think about when it comes to getting into a relationship with someone with depression, anxiety, PTSD, ADHD or similar mental health conditions: As mentioned above, it is likely that you have already encountered someone with mental health problems in your dating life.
While the first people who come to mind might be those that went to the extreme, there’s a good chance that the person you’re thinking of wasn’t someone who fit into this category.